Tuesday, November 26, 2019

The Almighty Human Heart

Human heart is the almighty of the all might. It could beat for no reason or even all the wrong reasons. It could also beat for one particular person or maybe more than it could handle.


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But human heart, it never weakens, it gets stronger. Even if you let someone took a half of it from you and never came back, it will grow to love again. 


Maybe not for others, but more to yourself.

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Sebuah Surat Terbuka untuk Perempuan Lain.

Apa yang kamu pikir kamu tahu tentang dia?

Sepersekian hidupnya yang dia bagi denganmu? 
Sepersekian cara pandangnya yang kamu pikir segalanya?
Sepersekian ambisi dan cita-citanya yang terdengar memukau di telingamu?

Sepersekian masalahnya, yang kamu pikir bisa selesaikan, semudah berkirim salam dengannya?
Sepersekian cerita-ceritanya yang membuat sepenggal sore di parkiran motor, jadi terasa seperti selamanya untukmu?
Sepersekian waktu sarapan, makan siang dan makan malam, yang kamu pikir bisa jadi keseluruhan waktunya?

Sepersekian kebersamaan yang ingin kamu perlihatkan pada dunia namun tak dia ijinkan?
Sepersekian kisah kami yang kamu tolak untuk pahami?

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Apa yang kamu pikir kamu tahu tentang dia, hanya sepersekian hal-hal yang tanpa sadar dia bagikan, karena kamu memaksa ada. Tapi aku dan dia––kami––kami berbagi sebuah hal yang lebih besar; cerita tentang masa depan. Yang secara sadar dibangun bersama sejak lama. Yang dengan atau tanpa kamu, nyatanya masih ada.

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Dan kamu, pulang lah. Di sini tidak pernah dan tak akan pernah ada tempat untuk kerumitan, apalagi untuk yang lain.




"Laras hati
Alirkan diri kembali
Membujur tubuhku
Sejuk pangkuan dirimu
Tak ingin terbungkus
Terbungkus penyesalan
Puing-puing janjiku
Kupugar kembali untukmu
Segala denyut nadi memanggil
Kamulah satu-satunya
Kamulah…"
––Kamulah Satu-Satunya, Dewa 19

[Second] Chances.

About second chance and many other chances in the world. Only a thin line separates them, second chance is earned not given.


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In life we live on chances.

The ones the universe made falling onto our laps. The ones we take responsibly, because we know they have to be worked on. The ones with consequences on their own, even if it’s still mysterious to be known.

In life, sometimes we also live on second chances.

The ones we take from those who still have the courage to believe in us. The ones we take with a humility and care, knowing they have to be earned. The ones with consequences on their own, clearly just because we know we blew up those firsts and we can’t afford to blow it up again.

Chances and second chances. The same, yet completely different. There are kindness in both of them. Only, in second chances, there are forgiveness that make them harder to be carried around.
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I kept thinking about how many second chances people deserve to take. How many a person deserve to give. What if second chance is never meant to be pleural?




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"Tried to rewrite things and go back
to the part where things were alright
Wish you tell me don't wanna love me from the start
Now why don't you just turn back if you can't love me when we're down
Back to you
Will never feel the same, i think it's time
To let go
Every broken things that we are..."
––Don't (Love Me) - Coldiac


Tuesday, April 9, 2019

The sacred trifecta of relationship.


Relationship is all about, love, trust & lust. Like most of trifectas in this world—I believe all things has its own—it’s a myth to get the equilateral triangle. 

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Working in a creative industry made me quite aware with the concept of ‘sacred trifecta’. We weren’t using it just to convince stubborn clients on budget or deadlines, it’s a real thing. Quality, time & budget, those are the main aspects that determine the output. And—like all the good things in this world—you can’t have it all.

You want maximum quality? Put extra time, in tight budget. Or vice versa. Limited budget in a time constrain, say good by to quality. That simple. There is no such a thing as cheap, fast and good creative output. It’s easy, you tighten some, you loose some. Fair and simple, no?

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To me, the relationship is something that has quite similar concept. You want the quality relationship that makes love last longer? Put the trust first, and you can take it easy in the lust factor—not having sex in a while is okay. Or when the trust is somehow evaporates, let lust be the first intuition—ever heard of make up sex? 

That simple? Maybe, yes. Fair? Not really. 

Of course we expect relationships to be perfect, equal, balance. Unconditional love, full of trust, and lusty thrusting—yea you know what I mean. But so they say, expectation is the root of all disappointments. You just had to realised that you CAN NOT have it all. And that’s why trifecta is invented—I guess. 

But the thing is with the sacred trifecta, it’s not rigid, it’s dynamic. Adjust along the way as you need it to be. Don’t be a stubborn client that fixated on one aspects only or even worse, the greedy ones that want to stretch everything. 

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Image taken from: here.

Hey, where’s the place for a little magic, moments and grand gestures?
Well, I think there’s another set of trifecta for that—the soulmate sacred trifecta. ;p